There's been quite the sensation over this thread here:
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=111777031
(Note to alpha: It's an Integra!)
Just to warn you, its rather long winded and such. I'll leave you to make your own judgments about that.
However I'm not here to talk about that thread. I'm here to examine the responses that this lady has posted on her profile:
http://blogs.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=389063875&blogID=446524813
http://blogs.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=389063875&blogID=447529067
Yes, she probably does have a right to react to all the hubbub regarding her, ahem, photoshoot, but surprisingly her response actually ticked me off. I guess I'm all riled up because that response to me just smelt like it was full of lies.
For one, if you genuinely do not care about something, then don't write up three rather long blog posts about it while insisting that you "DON'T CARE" (caps included) and are "happy and secure" several times over these posts. The simple fact is if you really didn't care, you wouldn't go to the trouble of responding at all.
Also, playing the guilt card is low. Yes, okay, its not exactly okay to bag someone out on the basis of their looks, but going 'what if I wasn't so strong' etc etc just makes you sound like an ass, trying to brag about how much you don't care and how strong you are, while also attempting to guilt people into no longer bagging you out.
Seriously. For frack's sake, if you're so on edge that the comments that random people on the Internet make on photos that you posted publicly on MySpace might just tip you 'over the edge', then don't post bloody photos on the Internet then. I've been through pretty crappy times too - we all bloody have - but if your self esteem lies on the judgement of forum guys then you need a serious reality adjustment.
Which brings me to my next point: posting your photos online. When you post photos online, you do so with an assumption that somewhere, someone may take notice of those photos and decide that they're interesting enough (in both positive and negative ways) to draw attention to. I'm not justifying the attention, mind you, but its a reality that everyone really should come to terms with.
Think of the Internet as this big crowd of people in this massive space: anything posted online is equivalent to throwing it onto the ground in this space. And occasionally, someone may spot something interesting amongst that mess and tap the person next to them to give them a peek. And so on. Perhaps you may be slaughtered: or maybe you just might become the next big meme?
So the gist of it is this: If you post photos on the Internet publicly, assume that there is a risk that you will attract attention - of either kind. If you really do care or are that insecure, then don't post photos. And if you really don't care, then don't post wordy posts about how much you don't care - that's hypocrisy.
Oh, and cut the bloody speeches about how life is lovely and beautiful and we should all dance in the fields under the glowering sun while rainbows shoot across the blue sky and butterflies hum to the tune of Stevie Wonder's "What a Beautiful World". I'm not being bitter, but I'm getting tired of this fast - imagine getting whacked over the head repeatedly by someone insisting that life sucks and you should be crying because children are starving in Africa.
This is exactly like that, except the inverse.
My point is, stop telling people how wonderful and terrible stuff is and let us make our own minds up. Be happy because you are, not because someone insists that you should be. And if you're not happy, then find out why and get working on that! Pretending to be happy because you should be is stupid, and denying that people should feel sad is ignorant and careless.
Feel what you are.
1 month ago